People of God! I need your advice. My man thinks I’m unserious with our relationship and wasting his time. I’m a 25-year-old lady who’s very frustrated about her life. I’m working so hard and praying too, but I’m only seeing very little results. I earn N200k-N300k monthly from my small businesses, but the bills I have to pay are a lot. We all know how the economy of this country is; bills come left and right. One thing about me is, I h8te depending on anyone, and I don’t really have helpers like that. I didn’t come from a rich family, so of course, I work so hard to take care of myself. The issue now is my partner of over 3 years is already clamoring for marriage and settling down with me. Honestly, he is a very good man, very loving and super supportive. He is financially stable as well. Anytime he wants us to discuss marriage, I try to avoid the discussion because, trust me, I am not ready financially to get married. With the way this economy is, what will my small earnings do to support the family?
I’ve really struggled, and trust me, I don’t want my children to go through this same struggle. I want to be a mother who also provides for my children’s needs, and I don’t want them to lack anything at all. Anytime my man talks about marriage and I give him the excuse of not being ready financially, he tells me that it’s not my responsibility to provide for the family’s financial needs, but deep down, I just want to be a very financially stable and capable woman before getting married. At the same time, I’m scared of losing him because I keep turning him down every time he talks about settling down. Honestly, I really love him, but I see what women go through in marriage when they are not so buoyant financially. I don’t want that for myself, but my man is already seeing me as an unserious person and feels I’m just wasting his time. What do I do, please?
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