I dated a girl for over two years, and our relationship was very toxic, which is why she broke up with me. I’m okay with the breakup, but now I’m finding out that she was cheating on me while we were together, and I never cheated on her. Anytime we fought, she was always the first to raise her hands on me before I reacted. She didn’t leave when we fought because the last time I hit her was eight months ago before the breakup she initiated. I’m confused. Why didn’t she leave eight months ago when I hit her? Why stay for another eight months? Our recent quarrel didn’t involve me touching her, even when she tried to push me to my limit. I promised myself never to touch a lady again. She was the first lady I ever hit and will be the last. I loved her more than anyone. When she wanted to break up recently, I accepted. She claimed the breakup was due to our last quarrel. I told her I didn’t touch her, and she was wrong, which she apologized for and I forgave her. To cut the story short, I was cool with the breakup and moving on.
She has asked to come back three times, and I said no because she has a high temper and I can’t marry someone like that. My pain now is finding out she was cheating on me. I confronted her, and she denied it, swearing on her life. I know she cheated. She lied about where she was staying and with whom after moving out of my house. We dated for three years and lived together for over two years. When she moved out, she said it was her brother’s friend who helped her, and she would stay with him until she found a place. But it was all a lie. She was housing the guy, but I don’t think she is seeing him. I want to move on as I intended before finding out about the cheating, but now it’s hard. All I think about is paying her back and harming her. I never cheated on her. Despite the toxicity, I believe I was the best boyfriend. I even fought with my family for her and brought her to the country we’re in after just two months of dating. So please, guys, what do you think? Should I pay her back? I don’t mind waiting a year or two to hurt her, or should I just move on as I planned? Please, I need advice. I’ll be in the comments.
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