I met this guy at a wedding, we clicked and talked every day. I’m a bartender, and he’s an engineer. We talked every minute, so one day we decided to meet at his place. I went there, he was cool, but then I started seeing girls’ stuff like pants, clothes, hair straighteners, etc. I didn’t talk because we were just there. The next time I visited, I saw different pants, towels, etc. I asked him, he told me it was his bestie’s. I was wondering. I told him if they were this close, why didn’t he date her? He said it’s complicated. Along the line, I found out they were dating already. I had fallen for him already, but I couldn’t tell if he was in love with me too. With actions, I think he was. Everything was complicated, so one day I decided to let him be with his girlfriend. He refused. He opened up that they are both AS and can’t get married. Again, I stayed, mumu in love. He treated me well, but I wanted more. I don’t want to be a side chick. I told him, and he said I should give him time (August to December) to sort things out and end things amicably with her.
She is a nursing student and in her finals, he said. I said okay. This was around August. I was waiting while we still talked and vibed. Fast forward to December, he didn’t do anything, and he never said anything either. I waited till January 3rd when I brought it up, and he was speechless, I was heartbroken, I told him he could stay with her, I wanted out, I couldn’t be a side thing, NEVER! I stopped talking to him, picking up his calls not chatting. Fast forward to March, and I got my own man who loves me and cares for me, ogaa found out and was begging me to break up with my new boyfriend and come to him. Mind you, he wasn’t going to break up with the girl. He just wanted me to remain a side piece. I shouted at him and told him over my dead body, in his voice, “I know I’m being selfish, but if being selfish will keep me, he doesn’t mind.” That was when I knew I’d been dealing with an insane guy. Ogaa doesn’t want to lose me, yet he doesn’t want to keep me. I started regretting the day I met him.
Ogaa lied that his girlfriend is his best friend, then again he said they are both AS, yet he still doesn’t want to let go. Again he wants me to stick around, like isn’t he insane? Now he is trying to make a move that he never did because he saw how my boyfriend is taking care of me and how beautiful I’m looking now. I told him even if he leaves his girlfriend now, I will never date him ever again. Since then, he has been calling, texting, wanting to see me, but I’m no longer in the same city with him. I’ve told my new guy so he won’t cause problems between us. I love my boyfriend, and I want him forever. He is everything I’ve prayed for. People say when you stop loving someone you start seeing their red flag. That’s when you know that your love made them special. Since I stopped loving him, I realized how ordinary he is, and I even hate him more for making me beg and look desperate for love. Now I’m being pampered. I’m in my happy place now.
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