I am 43 years old, and my wife is 39. My wife and I have been married for about 17 years now (we got married quite early), and we have two kids—a boy and a girl. These kids are our world. I am a nurse in the UK, and my wife works as a caregiver for a very wealthy family here (we relocated about three years ago), and they treat her really well. My wife and I have a lot in common. We love the idea of watching each other get pleasured, and we’ve been open to exploring these desires since our dating days. We dated for about four years before we got married. We are open about our desires and cravings. If my wife feels like having sex with someone outside, she tells me about it. Sometimes, we get a bull (a male s€x partner) for her, and I watch him pleasure her. I watch him have sex with her, and she gets to tell him all she wants. He is to make sure she is satisfied before he leaves. We pay for his services. If I also feel like being with another woman, I tell my wife, and sometimes she gets the ladies for me and watches too (we always use protection). I don’t feel bored in my marriage, and I don’t love her any less.
I have never stopped loving her. We are doing well financially, and we have a very happy home. If she sees someone she finds attractive outside, she tells me about it, and if she’s interested, sometimes I let her have her way. If I don’t feel comfortable, I tell her, “This one is a no,” and likewise her. This is our biggest secret, and the reason we have thrived this long is that we haven’t shared it with anyone since we know lots of people will condemn this dynamic—even though it has worked for us for years. Sometimes, we go on vacations to different countries to have fun with their men and women. We have s€x only once with people we know we will probably never meet again. She never contacts them again, and I also never contact them either. There is love and understanding in my home. I feel women also have cravings like men and sometimes might have the desire to try something different—as one D for the rest of your life can be tiring, I think. I am open to having my wife explore all her fantasies. Marriage has never been boring since I married this woman. She makes me happy, and I make her happy too. I have seen many marriages fail on the basis of infidelity.
I don’t think that is even a conversation up for discussion in my home. Five days ago, she told me she was bored and wanted to try something new. We have made arrangements for a getaway today. A massage therapist is going to come give her a good massage and F her afterward the way she likes it. I just get to watch and enjoy the view. We have our bags and her sex toys well packed. Let’s start March with good orgasms. This woman is my best friend, and what we have has taught me that all you need to make your relationship or marriage work is having a partner with shared dynamics and true friendship. So many people will condemn this, but my question is—how many of you can truly stay with one partner in your marriage all your life? If you had the opportunity to explore outside your home and still enjoy all the perks of marriage, wouldn’t you take it? We have been together for about 22 years, and it has been peaceful. So many people have things that keep their marriage working, provided boundaries are respected. This is mine. God bless you, darling, and I am willing to spend another 22 years with you if God spares our lives.
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