I’m a Hausa lady, and I dated an Igbo boy for four years. I never suspected him because he was always loving and caring. I didn’t know he had another lady before he met me, and they have been dating for five years now. This is someone who used to beg me never to cheat on him. I turned down a lot of guys because of him. He even promised to convert to Islam just for my parents to accept him so he could marry me. He said he was going to propose this year, and we had already started planning our future.
Unfortunately, he had someone else aside from me. I came across her pictures and videos on Instagram and TikTok, and I knew something was off because her snaps were always in his house or car from 2021 to 2025. I’m so shattered—my heart has been aching for days! I confronted him with the screenshots, and he said he was sorry, claiming he never played me and was serious about loving me. He said he loves me more than her and claimed she’s always on his neck, disturbing him, but she’s always in his house for weeks.
If I come and spend a few days with him, she’s coming the following week. You would never suspect him because he knows how to play his game well. This particular girl is from his tribe, and it would be easier for them to marry. Do you think it’s because of tribe and religion that he decided to break me this way? I used to proudly tell people I was dating an Igbo guy from Anambra who was willing to convert to Islam just to marry me, but many of my Igbo female friends said he would never do it—that he was just lying. I defended him because I thought I knew my man well. Now, I am left all alone. After confronting him, I blocked him everywhere. For four days now, he hasn’t even called me—unlike before when, if we had a misunderstanding, he would always find ways to bring me back, no matter what. But now, he’s silent—he hasn’t called or tried to reach out anywhere. I feel used. I should have known better. When we first met, he said I was the sweetest he ever had and that his exes didn’t even satisfy him like I did.
He promised never to leave me because he found everything he was looking for in a woman. He has supported me a lot, but I still can’t believe he never had the intention of marrying me. He always stopped other guys from getting close to me. I used to tell him that if he ever fell out of love with me or wanted to date someone else, we could have a proper understanding so I could move on. Instead, he always assured me he would never leave, that he wanted me to get pregnant for him, and would be sad when I got my period. Everything is so complicated in my head right now. Do you think he ever loved me, or has he just been playing me all this time? I’m so heartbroken, but God knows best.