I have a boyfriend whom I’ve dated for 4 years, and this should be the 5th year. In May last year, I went through his phone only to realize he has been involved with another girl, causing issues between us. Since that May, we’ve been going back and forth—sometimes trying to be good, sometimes facing issues. At some point, he began to irritate me because I would imagine him being with the other girl whenever we were close.
Fast forward to around October, I started talking to another guy. Although I hadn’t officially broken up with my boyfriend, our relationship wasn’t smooth, and communication was poor due to various issues. I confided in the new guy about my relationship problems without explicitly stating that we hadn’t officially broken up. Initially, I just wanted someone to talk to, but I ended up getting attached.
During a 3-week period of no communication with my boyfriend, I didn’t see talking to the new guy as wrong. Eventually, my boyfriend reached out, suggesting we fix things, but our relationship hasn’t fully recovered. Now, both of them know I’m talking to each of them. The new guy feels played, and my boyfriend thinks I should let go of the new guy. I’m confused about who to choose.
I already like the new person, but I’m scared things may not work out. As for my boyfriend, I fear he might revert to his previous behavior. The main thing holding me back is the time invested in our relationship. I’m really confused and need advice.
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