I had a really bad heartbreak and moved to a new country to start over after losing my business in Nigeria. About a month after moving, I met a guy who isn’t yet stable but has plans to do better. He asked me out, and I accepted. I explained that I wasn’t sure I could love anyone because I easily get turned off, but he still wanted to continue. Now, I’m tired. First, he irr’tates me so much—he smells bad, and I don’t even know how to tell him. He’s clingy and acts effeminate, which is tiring. Worst of all, he has a high sex drive and gets horny with just a hug, but when we try to have sex, he can’t perform, and his erection fades.
When I confronted him, he said it was because he masturbates a lot—4 to 6 times before seeing me. I’m exhausted, and I just realized I’m not in love with him. I’ve tried talking to him, but he won’t listen. I don’t know what to do. Also, I’ve realized I get easily tired of being around people. I’d rather be in my room after work, and loving someone isn’t working for me. I’ll like someone, then lose interest after a single mistake. Do I need therapy, or just some space?
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