I’m 24, and I’m dating a 35yr old guy. So the thing is, he claims he loves me a lot and would like to settle with me when I’m ready, that’s after I graduate from school next year. But my problem now is that I noticed he always texts this particular girl, and since I know the password to his phone, I went straight to their chat one day out of curiosity, only to find out he has something going on with the girl. I confronted him about it, but his response was that he was dating her a while back and even said she’s not in the country. He kept assuring me that there’s nothing going on between them, which doesn’t seem like it to me. I later found out he lied because this person is in Nigeria but a different state.
After that day, I noticed he has changed her name on his phone like three times now, probably to avoid suspicions from me, and he even told me he has stopped talking to her. He never fails to show me how much he loves and cares for me, but my point now is that, if really there’s nothing going on with the girl as he claims, why then is he going through all the trouble of lying and trying to hide her and keeps communicating with her always? Because from what I read that day, she believes he’s her boyfriend, and I know they talk all the time. I like this guy a lot, but due to the lies he’s told because of this girl, I’m drifting away from him gradually, and I don’t think I can continue to be with him, not like this.
Also Read: Why Am I Always Brotherzoned?