I am a 26-year-old lady, soon to be 27. I am in a relationship with a 35-year-old man who’s ready for marriage, and yes, I am ready for marriage too. I am currently studying in Australia, and he is already a citizen. However, he doesn’t provide enough financial support. My parents have been paying my tuition, but due to the current exchange rates, things have become tight. I had to work extra during my holiday to support them, and since I still have 3 semesters to go, I asked my boyfriend for help. He said it would be out of his will to assist as he’s not obligated to give me money, but of course, he would support me. I have to pay $10k for my 4th semester, and he finally gave me $600, then later $800, three months after.
I really appreciated it, but considering I needed $10k and he sent me a total of $1,400, I assumed he didn’t want to do more. I know he earns above $9k a month, which bothers me, but I’ve kept quiet. He has never once offered to pick me up from work or school. When we go to the store, he watches me pay for everything and never offers to help. As an international student, it stresses me out. I work hard to support myself, but having someone who could offer to help but chooses not to is tough. We aren’t married yet, but he’s already making me understand that we will share all bills—from rent to food. Last week, I was at work (I do live-in care), and I was supposed to be there for 3 days. However, something happened, and I had to stay an extra day.
I was already burnt out, but I decided to endure for one more day. He came by and said, “Sorry,” and in my head, I thought, “You could actually make my life easier.” Rather than having to work so hard, he could have helped. To make matters worse, he sent me 20 bucks for food. I used it to buy him food instead because it felt so disrespectful that he would send such a small amount. Not once did he ask if I wanted him to come pick me up, even though he lives just 25 minutes away. Since then, he hasn’t spoken to me, saying I insulted and disrespected him. Honestly, I don’t know what to do. I feel bad for what I did, but at the same time, I don’t feel appreciated either.
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