I met a guy around 2020 after getting admitted into uni. Told him I like him and we started dating. During that process, I had two other guys on me about relationship but I clearly told them I was not interested. This is not because of the guy I just met but my personal conviction. Fast forward to 2021, this my guy told me he noticed something and it seems like he got HPV from me. The way he brought the matter up, it was quite casual and he made it seem like it was not a big deal. Before he told me this, we had both agreed that we are working towards getting married, so when he told me, my response was since we are both working towards marriage, does he still mind or what can we do? His response was that as long as we are together, it is not a problem. After this, this person became so obsessed with me. He complains of everything that I do to my friends, even my family. I wish I can explain his behavior but I will have to write a lot. It got so bad that my mother noticed and warned me about him. This is an example of his behavior: I made him close to my mother and then anytime I told him I was going home, he would stylishly call my mother and ask if I was home already or not, and this is because he would have tried calling me but because I use bike as a means of my transportation, I keep my phone inside my bag so it doesn’t get snatched. Mind, you, he doesn’t call my mom until situations like this. This is one of many behaviors he exhibits. Fast forward to 2023, things became worse. We were already physically abusing each other I hit him the first time it happened and one other time, afterwards he turned to a habit of always beating me whenever we spend the night together and there is a misunderstanding. I have several scars and even directly to my eyes this guy has given me a big punch. I sat myself down and told myself the truth of how we are toxic already and nothing should make us stay together because it was getting so bad. Insults to our parents and many more. I left him, told him I was done and that was it. Now this guy is trolling me, telling me how I need to heal him of his virus. Lest I forget, when he told me about this thing, we didn’t talk about it until when he had to go to Abuja for service (2023) and we started having issues. It was until then he told me he got a test done (till date he didn’t show me the test result) and how I must heal him knowing fully well that it can only be managed and maybe leave if his immune system gets so strong. He has been texting my colleagues showing them proof of lies, even threatening me with my explicit pictures. What do I do? I recently even found out he made someone add me on snap since last year just so they can keep tabs on me. I have tried reaching a resolution with him after we broke up. Three times, he had requested that we have sex just so he can move, asked for my nudes so he can use them pending the time he has a woman. I have done all this but now it is worse because I stopped entertaining him. He even came to my house twice to threaten me. The first time was with my mom and sister; the second one, my dad was there and he told him to get himself treated since nothing can be done.
He is going as far as saying he would text my aunty (this woman sponsors me and my life). What do I do? I am tired. I once told him that I have made my research and there is no symptoms of this virus in me. I plan on getting a test done but now because I plan on doing it when I leave my parents’ house. But my point is, even if it is true, does that warrant all these? Can’t we both just live our lives separately and focus on our health? People manage this thing, and they live so fine. I need advice, I will be in the comment.
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