I linked up with an ex several months later, and we had sex. Days after, I started having blisters in my vagina. Long story short, the result proved it was herpes! My whole world came crumbling down. As much as you can manage herpes, it’s a lifetime infection that has no cure. Back to what I was saying—when I noticed the blisters, I texted him to tell him about it, and he said he had the same on his D. We went to do a test together. When the result came out, I shared mine with him, and he told me his was negative but refused to share his result. I started dragging with him because I was certain it was from him, as he was the only person I had recently gone raw with.
As much as herpes can stay in your body for 10 years or more without you even knowing or ever having a breakout, I could bet my life that it was from him. But this guy kept saying it wasn’t from him. At some point, I almost believed him because this guy is the greatest gaslighter you’ll ever come across. He denied it so much that I got tired of dragging with him every day to show me his result. He showed me all the other tests he did, except for herpes. When the whole thing happened, I started seeing different specialists. I ran over 10 different STI tests and got antiviral medicines. We used one of the most expensive hospitals in Lagos, and I also tested in three other big hospitals.
He was paying for everything. I spent close to N800k on all of this, I swear, because I wasn’t taking any chances. He’s very wealthy, so I made sure to make good use of his money. Sometimes I even lied to him, saying I needed to restock on my medicines, and collected N200k for a medicine that cost N67k, which I wasn’t even buying. He sent it without raising a brow. My point is, if he’s truly negative, he wouldn’t be paying for all of this.
Anyway, I accepted my fate and stopped asking him for his result. Then, a girl came into my DMs to tell me she got herpes from him too, and he blocked her when she confronted him. She must have seen our chat. Finally, the moment I had been waiting for! I knew I would get proof one day. I entered his DMs and told him I now had proof. This guy said I orchestrated the whole thing myself. Don’t forget, I said he’s a gaslighter. But this time around, I was ready for him. He still kept denying that he has it. He said we could go to his hospital to retest. I told him no, that I’d pick the hospital because he could go and bribe his doctor. I just want him to admit that he gave me herpes—that’s all! I deserve closure.
My question now is: if I finally get him to admit it and do the test, moving forward, what should I do? I’m thinking of getting my lawyer to prepare an agreement that he’ll send me money for medicine every month until I decide to stop, because honestly, he has a lot to lose if it ever gets out that he has herpes. Or should I just leave him alone and move on with it? (Even though now he’s in my DMs, always professing love to me. This was someone who broke my heart, and I was still always in his DMs, begging him to take me back, and he always ignored me.)
To be honest, I’ve only had an outbreak twice, and I’m not on medication anymore, since I don’t have outbreaks. There’s a possibility I might not even have an outbreak again until I d!e, or I might have one soon—it depends on my immune system. The only time you use antiviral medicines is when you have an outbreak. So please, what should I do?
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