I’m 24, and I’m in a long-distance relationship with a 28-year-old guy. It’s almost 2 years that we’ve been together. My boyfriend is not ready for marriage, but I am. I’m done with school and my NYSC; he’s not acting like he’s ready to propose anytime soon. I understand because he might not have achieved some things he wanted… that’s understandable. When I brought it up, he said he’s not ready and he doesn’t want me to get pregnant now as well, even by mistake.
He said if I do by mistake, I’ll give birth to that child, but he’s still not going to do any marriage with me. We need a marriage certificate to prove we’re married so I can be able to travel to him anytime I want. My boyfriend suggested us to get a fake marriage certificate. He used to borrow money from me and return it when he’s low on funds or doesn’t have naira; he borrowed some money from me sometimes ago,
about two million naira (I did this because he’s generous to me, he has done things for me that no guy has ever done), and this money I borrowed him was part of my business money and some savings; he promised to return it before I need it. Fast forward to when I needed the money for my house rent, he started giving me stories that he doesn’t have; I was frustrated and heartbroken because I didn’t know what to do; the painful part is he didn’t even make any effort.
We had a very big issue which I had to involve his brother and friend; he didn’t talk to me for 6 days, and he didn’t care if I was able to pay the house rent or how I sorted it. I had to borrow money from someone; he later paid the money, and he begged me, and we reconciled, but since then everything changed. He no longer cares; he disrespects me and talks to me anyhow; he doesn’t call first unless I do,
if I complain, he’ll turn it into a fight. If he insults me, I’ll still be the one to beg him; then he’ll now apologize. He was ready to end things at every given chance; it’s now looking like I’m forcing myself on someone that begged to have me. I’m hurt because I care a lot about him and I love him. I pray every day to God to make him my husband. I’m a very beautiful lady, and every man wants me, but the only person I want is treating me like shit. My mum said I shouldn’t leave him because she was told he’s my husband, likewise my sisters.
I cry every day because I’m tired. I don’t want to start all over again with another person. I don’t even want to date anyone again. I’m giving up on love. I’m depressed and sad. I gave my all, but it wasn’t enough. I’m even thinking of locking him and breaking his heart. I’ve begged God to please make me forget him and be able to be happy again. How can I forget about him? Or what should I do?
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