I have this bad habit. I like gifting my partner, but if they do anything bad to me, I’d either return the gift or keep it. I have like three gifts in my box that I never gave to him. It happened with my ex once because we barely fought, but towards the end of the relationship, I was suspecting he was cheating, so I didn’t give him anything. Then we broke up because I was right. But this my new partner na fighter.
Every two seconds, fight and ghosting. I’d be in a good mood and think, “Let me do something nice for my partner,” then he’d just come and spoil my mood. The reason I’m writing this is because I’ve only given him gifts like twice in the relationship, and I’m feeling guilty. But then, he’s tooooo annoying, and he cheats like mad. He doesn’t deserve anything, plus he doesn’t even give me anything too.
He only got me a gift once, and the worth of the gift is high; that’s why I feel bad. I just do normal woman duties for him—cook and clean. I can’t invest myself, my time, and my resources completely in someone like that because it’s me that’ll lose in the end. Is this behavior valid, or do I have bad character?
Also Read: I Leave My Relationships at the Slightest Inconvenience