I’m a 29-year-old working in Enugu. I had a girlfriend (27 years old) who was working in Lagos. We dated for about seven months. When we were still dating, I did all I could to earn her trust, including frequent communication, buying her stuff, getting to know the minutest source of her worries/anxieties and trying to solve them as much as I could. We met physically at least once or twice in two months, all because it was a long-distance relationship. What led to our breakup two months ago was that it felt like we took turns offending each other with our words and actions, maybe due to the stress we were both facing differently. Communicating about it only provided a short-term solution, only for us to return to the same attitudes again. For me, I didn’t like the way I talked to her because she was my woman. So I suspected it was due to prolonged familiarity. I suggested to her that we observe a four-day silence so we could work on ourselves, adjust, and probably miss each other before resuming communication.
She accepted. I remember texting her thrice within that silent period. The next thing I saw was that she blocked me everywhere (social media and my line) without dropping a word. I called severally, but it didn’t go through, so I concluded it was a breakup. I mourned the relationship for a few days, and now I’m very okay. Please, I want to know if my approach was wrong (so I don’t repeat it, probably in my current relationship). If yes, why didn’t she communicate her feelings to me based on my approach? I felt that if she had valued our relationship, breaking up wouldn’t have been her first response. All I was after was a long-term solution to our recurring issues. So all your suggestions will be highly welcomed. Thanks, guys.
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