I was in a relationship with this guy, and from day one, I saw the red flags—he was a cheat. But I ignored them because I had already fallen for him. We ended up dating for over two years. This man disrespected me, manipulated me, and cheated on me countless times. There was even a day I was visiting a friend near his place, only to find out later that he had brought another girl into his house while I was just around the corner. I found out through his phone conversations at night, and I was so broken I couldn’t even sleep. I wanted to leave the next morning, but he apologized, and like a fool in love, I forgave him. That became a pattern—he kept cheating, even with girls I knew, and I kept forgiving him because he claimed he loved me. I can’t even count how many times he betrayed me. The painful part? I was 100% loyal to this guy. I swear to God and everything I believe in, I never cheated on him.
No matter what he did to me, I stayed faithful. I never entertained other men. I never gave him a reason to doubt me. I would rather cry myself to sleep than step out on him. I was so open with him that he even knew everyone I texted. I distanced myself from a few of my friends just to make him feel secure in our relationship. Meanwhile, he was out there doing whatever he wanted with whoever he wanted. Fast forward to a few months before our first anniversary, he claimed he had changed. And for a while, I thought he actually had. But early last year, I found out he was secretly texting his ex and even hiding their chats. I was devastated, blaming myself for believing him again. He manipulated me (again), swearing I meant everything to him, and guess what? I fell for it (again). At the same time, my ex was also texting me, and this guy saw everything.
I barely even responded, and when I did, it was either with rude replies or complete disinterest. Meanwhile, he was secretly texting his ex behind my back. And when I finally caught him, his excuse was that his ex was “gaslighting him into thinking she would kee herself,” so he had to give her attention. But that was the moment I finally lost trust in him. I started feeling numb in the relationship. I didn’t even have the urge to be close to him anymore. We’d be together, and I’d feel nothing. He noticed and started complaining. I told him plainly: I don’t trust you with my heart or my body anymore. He kept saying I needed to “let go” of the past and “give him a chance to rebuild trust.” But how do you rebuild something you shattered repeatedly? He even tried to justify everything by saying, “But I’ve been good to you.” And I told him straight up: “The only reason I’m still here is because I appreciate the good things you did.
But don’t expect me to ignore all the bad just because you did the bare minimum.” When I asked him if he would have accepted all this if the roles were reversed, he said no. At one point, he even joked that maybe I should go and cheat so we could “count scores.” Imagine. Since last year, we’ve had constant ups and downs because I refused to let my guard down. Now, we started living in different states, and my trust in him was already gone. So last week, I decided to play a little card with him. I went to a night party—I don’t even go out. Throughout my days in Uni, I didn’t go for night parties even once, and he knows I barely go out. So I told him I was home and let my friend post a video of me there. The next morning, I knew he would see it, and I waited for him to see it. When he did, he texted me, cur$ed me out. He said I lied and got so mad, you’d think I had committed a crime. Bro, I didn’t even cheat on you.
Meanwhile, this was the same man who cheated on me multiple times. I just sat there laughing because, for the first time, I felt nothing. I even told him I hadn’t gotten home yet and was about to sleep. He called me repeatedly. I ignored all his calls. Then he blocked me everywhere. This guy had the audacity to say he was disappointed in me, that he placed me high and was always rooting for me as a ‘better girl.’ LMAO. Disappointed in who? In the same girl you emotionally messed up? The same girl you never held to the same standard? How do you not respect someone but expect them to keep respecting you? Man said, “Even though I’ve always treated you bad, I respect you a lot.” Tf is that? I told him plainly: I don’t owe you my loyalty or honesty anymore. He said I should please myself, and I did already. I’m done for good. And just like that, we broke up. And you know what? I feel no regret. No pain. Just relief.
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