“I’m sharing my story, hoping it might save someone from the same heartache I endured. I met him, and my world stood still. I fell deeply, irrevocably in love. He was taken, but I held on to hope. When his relationship ended, I thought fate had finally brought us together. I transformed myself, trying to be chubby because he likes chubby girls, praying he’d see me in a new light. It never happened. I’m starting gym by January to be my slim self. But what’s even more heartbreaking is that I pushed away other men who were interested in me.
I didn’t want to be in a relationship with anyone else, hoping that he would eventually come around. I wanted him to want me, to chase me, but only when I was already taken. I chased all other men away, ignoring their advances and shutting down any potential relationships, all for the hope of being with him. But little did I know, he didn’t feel the same way. When he finally made his intentions clear, it was like a punch to the gut.
All he offered was friendship. My heart shattered into a million pieces. He’s a sweet guy, and I’m not saying he’s a bad person. He’s actually very caring and still takes care of me to this day. But I want more. I want love, I want affection, I want to be cherished. I compromised my happiness, my self-worth, and my identity—all for someone who didn’t see my value. To every young woman out there, don’t make the same mistake. Prioritize yourself, your love, and your worth. Don’t change for anyone who doesn’t cherish you.
Don’t push away genuine connections hoping for someone who may never come around. I’m still picking up the pieces of my heart, but I’m learning to love myself, to see my own worth. Don’t wait until it’s almost too late, like I did. Love yourself first, fiercely, and without apology. You deserve to be seen, heard, and loved for who you are.” MY LOVE FOR HIM DIES THIS MINUTE I WROTE THIS.
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