When my man was down financially for over seven months, my sexual attraction for him reduced to the point that we literally became like siblings because I stayed with him. It wasn’t intentional, but I denied him sex. One time, he brought up the issue, and I told him, “If that’s what you’re thinking about at your age and with the situation on ground…” During that period, I started talking to someone who was there for me, and I didn’t realize how badly I was treating my man. It felt normal to lean that guy’s way, even though I had no intention of having sex with him, because we talked regularly.
One time, my man caught me talking to the guy and found out he sent me money. I said some hurtful things to him, and he cried. It was funny to me at the time, but I later apologized, and he said no problem. Recently, I’ve noticed a big distance between us. Although he has found himself again and is still empathetic toward me, things are not the same. He no longer keeps money with me, writes long notes about me in his journal, or plays with me. He is just quiet around me now. I have even checked his phone to see if there’s another girl, but I found none.
How can I get things back on track? Because why did he go and rent and furnish an apartment for me when we have been staying together for almost four years? I don’t want to lose my man, abeg. I just needed a way to get by then. I now realize that despite how I acted, he never chased me out, knowing I had nowhere to go, and he was not abusive at all.
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