I’ve been in a relationship with my man for 9 months. During this time, we’ve had several arguments, mostly due to infidelity on my part. He accused me of seeing someone else, which was true—the man I was seeing provided me with financial support, something my partner was aware of. Despite knowing this, my partner repeatedly complained and begged me to change.
The truth is, out of a family of nine, I’m the only one doing relatively well. I’m responsible for sponsoring my siblings and supporting my elderly parents. I pay three of my siblings’ school fees, among other responsibilities. My partner, who is still hustling, wasn’t able to provide much financial support. I felt like the man sometimes, helping him out, feeding, etc.
I often had to ask for things like dates and gifts. I know he loves me, but honestly, I love money more. After some self-reflection, I’ve realised that I might lose this man because my love for myself and financial security was so strong that I didn’t consider how much I was hurting him. I’ve cut off my male friends, but now he says he has moved on and isn’t sure if he can trust me again.
He’s talking to someone new, who is from his tribe (he’s Yoruba, and I’m Igbo). I’ve been begging him to give us another chance. He said I should give him a month to think (I know it’s because of the new lady). I don’t know what to do next or how to gain him back. I am willing to be patient, and I mean it this time about changing.
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