I met this guy late last year and he asked me out. I’ve actually known him for 3 years but we were just friends. When he asked me out, I initially refused, but I got to know him on a deeper level and saw that he ticked my boxes. We started dating and this guy has been everything I want. In just a few months of dating, I’ve met all the important people in his life, even his parents. I think it’s because we’re in the same state and we see each other very often. He’s just too much of a green flag and it scares me because I’ve had a similar experience and I later found out he didn’t love me. Back to my story, I’ll be 23 in a few months, and I’m currently in my 400 level as a medical student. I’m thinking about getting married as soon as I’m done with school, which is in 2 years’ time, but I don’t think this guy is ready or sees me in his future. We jokingly talk about stuff like this and he says that he’s taking care of me for my future husband. And when I try to have a serious conversation about it, he says I should not rush things, that the future will unveil itself.
I don’t want a “flow with the vibe” kind of relationship. I want something we both know where we are headed to. About 2 months into our relationship, he asked me if I’d marry him if our relationship gets to that point and I told him I couldn’t decide because we were just starting out. Now we’re about 9 months and I really want to know his intentions. His actions are very different from his words. Although he says those things jokingly, I feel like there’s some form of truth. I really don’t know. I don’t want to seem desperate and I also don’t want to waste my time, which is why I need your opinion. Am I wasting my time?
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