I come from a family where girl children aren’t really cared for. I’m the youngest girl child, and I’m 22. I finished my National Diploma, and my parents literally stopped supporting me. My two older sisters got pregnant after ND and are married with their kids now. They probably gave up on us, the girls, and thought I was going to follow the same route too because my brothers are cared for and supported financially. Well, I met a guy about 4 years ago, and he lifted me. I didn’t want to do HND, and this man has been single-handedly paying all my fees. He pays my rent, takes care of all my bills, asked me to get a skill, and supported it financially too. He’s such a loving and caring man and has never for once looked me in the eyes and said he’s tired. He’s ever ready. The thing is, he’s married! With children! Although he’s young, his marriage happened in some kind of way when he was in his early 20s according to the story he told me. That’s his side, and I don’t entirely believe it, but okay.
At first, I was confused and sad because why is he married and always showing up for me? He makes sure to see me every week. We go on vacations, and he treats me like his own! It’s been years, and nothing changed. The crazy thing is that the wife and his family already know me. Nobody is giving me problems, more like they accept me. His mom was his father’s fourth wife, so maybe it’s normal over there. For me, I don’t want to be anyone’s second wife! That’s where the problem is. Now, I know I can’t have him to myself, but I pictured a perfect family for myself, not this kind of setting that I’m building! I met a guy this year in January. He’s also well-to-do, from a very good background, single, no kids, never been married. He loves me, always offering to help and send me gifts, but I’ve been declining. I love everything about him. He’s young and understands me better. I feel like I owe my boyfriend a lot because his beautiful soul has never wronged me.
He wants the best for me and always wants me to grow. He usually tells me how important it is for a woman to be financially stable, down to my sanitary pad!! He does everything! He just told me to focus on my skills and my school, which I’m almost done with. I’m not having a shaky mind because of the guy I started talking to. From the beginning, I’ve always been thinking about it and asking myself why any married man would be doing all this. He loves his wife, and he does even triple the caring for her, everyone is okay, and there’s peace. But, I don’t like the second wife thing. I’ve been loyal to a married man for years. Now I’m growing older and seeing a good young guy of my age range willing to do life with me. I don’t even know how to walk away. I don’t want to lose the new guy. Please, talk, guys!
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