I’m a 29 years old lady who just got into a relationship for the first time. I have always avoided relationships all my life. The reason is that I want to keep myself till I am ready to have sex, and it has to be someone I love so much even though we did not end up together. You might think I’m weird, right? No. The issue is this, this new guy is okay so far. He is caring, like he chats me up at any given time, and he made his intentions known from the beginning. My problem is this, he is too sensual. Like he talks about romance too much. If he chats me up now, the next question will be “what are you putting on? Are you wearing pants underneath? Pls I want a picture of my baby in her nightwear.” Or when I’m at work, he would ask “what’s your outfit like?” When I tell him the outfit I’m putting on, he would be like “can you send me a picture of you please?” And to be sincere I don’t feel comfortable with all that. I already told him about it, he said that he does not want to have sex with me until I’m ready, even though it will not be easy for him since he is already sexually active. But since we will not be having sex, at least we should romance. But omo it’s so difficult for me to loosen up. The other time he complained that our conversations are casual, that it does not look like two people in a relationship. Pls I just want to know if all these characters are okay in a relationship. Yes, I’m an adult but when it comes to relationships, I am a novice. I don’t like chatting with him because he always talks about romance. I almost ended the relationship. But I don’t have anyone I could trust to share my story. Pls is it normal in a relationship? And pls any advice on how to keep a relationship. Thank you. The guy is in his early 30s.
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