I’ve been dating a man for a few months now. Before we started, he was upfront with me and told me he had gotten another woman pregnant, and she was expecting his child. He’s been a wonderful partner, and our relationship is serious, with marriage being a real possibility. He told me he’s not in love with her and that his only commitment to her is for the child’s sake. She knows he doesn’t feel the same way about her as she does about him. He explained that if he hadn’t met me, he would have eventually found someone else because he truly wants to be happy. A few months into our relationship, he married her in a traditional ceremony, saying he did it solely for the child (this arrangement was in place before I entered the picture).
Now, she lives with him and the child. I’m in love with him, and he’s been honest with me from the start. We’ve discussed it at length, and he’s assured me that his commitment to her is only for the child, which I’m okay with. My family wants to meet him, and we’re close-knit, sharing almost everything, but I feel very anxious. One of my biggest fears is ending up in a polygamous situation, which I don’t ever want. Additionally, he’s Muslim, and I’m Christian. Based on our conversations, he’s assured me that his arrangement with her is strictly for the child. I would genuinely appreciate some sincere advice, as I’m feeling very scared and uncertain about what to do.
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