I’m dating a 32-year-old man. He is a very sweet person that likes me a lot, like a whole lot. He cares for me; even if it’s past 12 and I’ve not eaten, this man will drive down to get me food, takes me almost everywhere with him. I like him too, but I noticed something. I mostly put on wigs these days. For a while, I had all back on and it was rough, and at times he looks at my hair and not say anything like, “This your hair is rough, you should go and rebraid it.” I’m a student. Most times I complain of not having money and this man has never said anything like, “Let me send you money” or “How much do you need?” Apart from buying me food and being caring, he has never helped with any finances. We’ve been together for 2 months now and the only money he has given me is N50k and that was because I asked, and when he said he doesn’t have, I changed it for him. Please note I’m not begging, I’m okay financially, like very okay, and I handle my bills myself. He is okay financially too; it’s not like he doesn’t have it.
But I thought since we’re together, he should be involved in my finances. I have a whole lot on my neck — my school, I want to rent an apartment, and I have money to do all — but is he not supposed to be involved? I was teasing him about wanting to make my hair (braids) today, he was like, “Don’t you have money to do so on your own?” Meanwhile, I just wanted to go make my all back again. I hope you don’t misquote me, I just wanted to know if it’s okay for a man actively involved in your life and movement and likes you a lot but excludes your finances. Is it okay I should go on like that and not ruin the relationship since I’m happy in it.
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