I was dating this guy sometime last year. The relationship lasted 8 months. We had good chemistry and all that. He was always there for me, we really liked each other, he was a provider and a mature-minded guy. He was kind to me and I was kind to him as well. All of a sudden, he began behaving strangely. I asked if he wasn’t interested anymore, and he said yes. I asked what I did, and he said nothing. I was left confused because I never cheated on him. He said the attraction just faded and that I kept pushing him away with constant validation and nagging. I made several attempts to reach him, but he kept shutting me out. I would call and write long paragraphs, yet nothing. I began acting childishly because I wanted to save the relationship from collapsing. I tried reaching out so we could talk, but when I got to his house, we ended up having s€x and didn’t even talk. I went home and he still said we can’t be together. I explained to a friend, and she said it might be spiritual—that I should pray because the sudden change was suspicious.
I even talked to a man of God and he said something was pushing him away. All the while, I dedicated my time to praying for reconciliation because I don’t jump into relationships easily. Not long ago, he reached out to me on his own, and out of excitement I replied immediately—mumu me. He asked us to see, that it wasn’t about s€x, just my presence. I declined at first and said I was busy. Days later, he reached out again. I agreed, went to see him, and as usual, we were playing and eating together. He told me he missed me, that he ignored me because he’s the man and it should have been me to reach out first. I left his place, and he called to ask if I’d gotten home. I said yes, and he said he wanted to do something. I reached out the next day and we chatted normally. Then he went cold again, and I did too. I’ve been working on myself not to react when someone acts funny. I sent a message seeking advice and he ignored it, only replying hours later. I didn’t respond. The next day, he asked if I was home. I said no—I was actually at home but didn’t want to seem desperate.
I just want to move on. This is the first time I’ve loved someone without a reason. When I wanted to break up, he begged me, only to break up months later. I felt rejected and was mad. I concluded that he only reached out recently to play mind games so I could chase him and feed his ego. I guess he missed me begging. Since the last time he replied, I haven’t spoken to him again. It’s been days. All I feel toward him now is resentment. I blame myself for falling for his tricks. I was just trying not to act nonchalant because I had been praying for reconciliation and thought God brought him back, so I didn’t want to play hard to get. I’m just waiting for when he’ll message me next so I can give him a taste of his own medicine. I’m never replying again. He’s changed totally, and he isn’t the type of guy I want anymore.