I had been dating this guy for about 2 years, and things were going well; this guy treated me like a goddess. He’s the second person I’ve ever dated, and the first person that I can say I actually loved. But the thing is, he’s very jealous and obsessive. And it got worse as time went on. He said I shouldn’t keep any male friends (even though I already had male friends before I met him). Each time I went out with a guy, it’d cause a very big argument. I tried several times to explain to him that going out with a guy doesn’t mean I’m cheating, but jealousy has clouded his sense of reasoning. This guy doesn’t believe I can be faithful, and I don’t know why. On more than three occasions, he seized one of the phones he bought for me (because it’s my main phone) and accused me of cheating; yet whenever he calms down, he apologizes and promises he won’t do it again. Bear in mind that this man has never for once been physically or emotionally abusive to me. But one day, during another of our very heated arguments, this chicken of a guy called me “useless”.
I was so pained that I kept on overthinking and told him I was done with him. This guy later apologized, promising heaven and earth. Omo! The matter long, I stopped liking him like I used to, and he noticed because I wouldn’t even allow him to kiss or touch me when we saw. I just found him repulsive and shit. And things were already getting so toxic. The last straw was when he took my phone again and kept on implying I was seeing someone, I can’t double date because if I do, one party would definitely know something’s up. After all, I can’t like 2 people at the same time, but this nigga doesn’t seem to get it. I told him he had a mental problem and that he should seek help, and he started shouting at me. I was scared and almost didn’t recognize him at that point. I stormed out of the car, and this guy was literally begging so much; I was so pissed and told him we were done for real this time. I told my mom also; my mom spoke to him, and he kept on begging that he wanted to talk to me because he didn’t mean it. His mom and sisters called to beg me, and reluctantly I forgave him, in my heart though, I still maintained we were over. He begged for one last chance, and I didn’t answer.
Whenever he called, I was always cold and distant, and then one night, he insisted that I talk to him about how I felt, and I just lost it and told him my mind, because I felt he didn’t truly understand how I was feeling. He told me he’d do anything to right the wrong he did, but what could I say? I then, in a rage of anger, told him not to call me for a long time, and that he should give me space. Plus, I also feel he’s going through some financial crisis, but I know he won’t tell me, because he says he’s never broke, but I’m not stupid; I can sense it (that’s another problem, he’s not so honest about those kinds of things). The next day he called, I didn’t pick up, and then he sent a text; I replied coldly. The day after that, he called, and we talked shortly. And since then, he hasn’t called for almost a month now; for 2 weeks I wasn’t bothered, but now I am really missing him, but I can’t call him. He’s not even active on social media. I’ve already gotten so used to him, and it’s kinda painful for me. I keep hoping he’ll call me, but he hasn’t. I don’t know what to do or how to feel anymore. Because there are guys in my DM, but I don’t want them, I just want my baby. I mean it’s my longest relationship, so as much as I want to move on, it’s hard. And I’m pretty sure he’s hurting too. Why won’t he call? Please advise me.
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