My boyfriend started dating in 2021, and I could say our talking stage was based on how he would get me pregnant once he’s back in town. Three months after he got back, I still wasn’t pregnant, so I started getting worried. So I started seeking medical help and local help; nothing worked. Things were not going well for him at some point, so I had to start selling food by the roadside just to make ends meet. All he did then was wallow in depression and go from one spiritualist to another, sending my name around. I wasn’t happy and called his attention to it, but it was normal to him.
Fast forward to after he cashed out, he settled his debt and gave me some money to start up a Pos business, even though we had issues about the money because I felt he was being reluctant about it. In January 2022, I asked him his plan on our relationship, and he said we would sort things out before the year ended. Meanwhile, I was still battling with the fertility issue, and he was aware of everything, but he never supported, both financially and mentally. All he said was it would come at the right time.
His mother once told me to stop using contraceptives out of nowhere, saying most of his friends are married and have a child. I made ten times the money he gave me for the business, and I can say 70% went into fertility treatments. We started having issues with him talking to different girls on all social media. He started chatting with his ex-girlfriend, saying he’s trying to beg for forgiveness in case she has anything against him, and some other schoolmates during his university days. I wasn’t comfortable with it, and I told him to set boundaries, but all he would say is, have I ever come across where he told them to meet up or had sex with them?
Apart from that, he has never for once gotten me a gift, even on my birthdays. We have to fight over it before he would give me money, saying he’s not used to those things. Most of those times, he makes it feel like I am choking him. He even once said he prefers a baby mama than marriage if not for families and friends pressuring him. We would have issues, and I would be crying my eyes out. He would still leave and go chill with his friends, then come back like nothing happened. I was slowly getting depressed, so I thought of going for my degree so I can mix with people and free my mind because my life revolved around only him and my business.
Then I didn’t stop with the fertility test when I entered school, and we still get to see almost every weekend. The issue now is things turned around. All his close friends are married or have a serious girl that is always with them. This is my second year in school. We had a very big issue towards the end of last year, and we settled around December. He checked my phone and saw how guys are rushing me. Now he’s all I ever prayed for because he started the fertility treatment and talking about marriage. But I am afraid because I feel those treatments he gave me before were the real him, maybe this is just to get me into marriage.
I have prayed and prayed, but I also messed up recently. I had a fling with someone, and he got to know. Though he said he has forgiven me and still wants to go ahead with the marriage thing, I dey fear. Moreover, would he still be saying this if his visa wasn’t rejected in December? The plan was he would be traveling this January before, and that was part of our fight towards the end of last year. My Rantz family, please, what should I do? I know I messed up by having sex with another guy, but it wasn’t planned. I don’t even know what I was thinking.
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