Please, I’ve been seeing a guy for 8 months now, and we’ve been sharing a s£xual relationship. At least on weekends or my off days, we meet. No billing or outings are attached. Before we started, he told me he doesn’t have a girlfriend, and I’ve been single for years now. I’m already attached to him, but for the past 3–4 months, he has been speaking with this particular girl on the phone each time I’m around. The calls are on speaker, but he has never asked me to lower my phone volume when I’m watching videos. He pays for my transport fare to and fro, and I don’t stress him with offering me drinks or food because I naturally like him from the bottom of my heart. He’s such a hustler and hardworking. If I see a calm guy concentrating on making money and passing through stress, I remember my elder brothers. 🥲 He’s the only guy I’ve been seeing since I knew him, but he has never asked me out.
I do show this guy real love because when I genuinely like a guy, I expect nothing and always give green lights. I can’t toast any man that is African or black—it’s not ego, but I believe a man should see a sign. Sometimes, I even patronize him and tell him to keep the change because I know I would pay for delivery if I didn’t show up at his place. I even pay the rider’s fee sometimes too. The girl he usually talks to on the phone speaks their language, and I don’t understand it. There was this day he told the girl to wait for him somewhere. He also told me to leave early because he was going out with his friends, which he had already mentioned when I was coming. I said okay, but I used my head to understand. Each time we have a conversation, if I remind him of something about us, he always says no. He’s always with his phone whenever we’re together unless he’s going to bed—then he just goes to lie down.
The problem is that this guy is always the one replying to my pictures once in a while when I post, and he always wants to see me unless I deny seeing him. If I message him right now and say, “Let’s see,” he will never say no or give excuses. I don’t know if he’s using me or if he’s just being himself, which I don’t mind because if I love a guy, all my focus is on the mindset of the person—not the outcome. I don’t mind if it doesn’t end well, but I just hope I’m not being played because I’m not the baddie type. I know my level, and feelings are what we’re talking about here, not material things. Since 3 years now, this is the only guy giving me sleepless nights, and I’m not regretting it. I just hope I’m not being stupid. I’m 25 this year. Anyways, I’ve concluded to stop seeing him, but once in a while, the feelings keep dragging me back.
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