I’m in a seven (7) year relationship. He is a caring and sweet man. He saw me through school and takes care of my bills. I’ve always been a loyal person, but if I sense any sort of cheating, it doesn’t sit well with me. I was his first sex partner, and he’d always talk about wanting to taste other girls to know if he’s good. He says it doesn’t change the feelings he has for me and that I shouldn’t be scared or anything. We became a long-distance couple, and I already had the feeling he had started cheating. I just hadn’t caught or seen anything yet. Before now, he liked women a lot. He’d talk down about a particular lady, and I once caught their chat. They were flirting with each other. When I confronted him, he said it was nothing and that I was overthinking. I left it aside. Back to when our relationship became long distance, I went to visit him one time, and his attitude and behavior changed towards me. I started suspecting, but I had no evidence yet.
Another time I visited, I saw a picture of that same lady in his gallery inside his bedroom and videos of him at her house. He said nothing happened. I h8te cheating, and I felt that because he does everything for me and knows I won’t leave, that’s why he’s doing all this. So I stood my ground. I started a business and told myself to level up and start making my own money. During this process, I met a guy. He was also in a relationship and had a child (not married). We became friends and knew we had feelings for each other, but we tried so hard not to give in. Later, I went to visit my boyfriend. I don’t go through chats or anything, but something always leads me to the gallery. Lo and behold, I saw a video of a girl on him in his bedroom. He was rubbing her a$$ and calling her sweet names. I wan die. I kept my cool and showed him. He said the same thing—that he doesn’t have feelings for them, they are just chop and go. I called his mom and told her.
She said I shouldn’t be angry because men are naturally like that. I just laughed. When I went back, I made sure I gave in to the new guy. We had mad sex—better than my boyfriend. His feelings for me became strong, and I didn’t want it to be, but it happened. Now, we’re both in love. He doesn’t want me to go back to my boyfriend. He broke up with his baby mama (for reasons known to him). I don’t want to talk about her story. He truly wants me to be his. He’s kind, loving, and tries his best to make me comfortable. The thing is, I don’t want to settle with a man who already has a kid, and the love I have for my boyfriend is dying slowly. I don’t know how to tell him. He still loves me and wouldn’t want to let me go because, according to him, he groomed me to be his and wouldn’t want to lose me. I truly want to live my life as a single lady and start afresh. And by the way, I’m 27. What should I do?
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