There’s this guy I’ve been in a situationship with—we’re not officially together, but we do everything like we’re in a serious relationship. We cook together, go on dates, play around, and the sex is amazing. He travelled in September 2024 and is meant to be back in December 2025, and even though we’re apart, we still talk every day about when we’ll see each other again. I haven’t really felt a connection with anyone else because of the bond we share. Even though we’ve never defined it, I somehow feel like I owe him my loyalty, which sounds crazy considering we’re not actually official. Recently, I started getting close to someone else. Things got a little too far physically, but I’ve drawn a clear line—no penetration. Still, I feel guilty. The pleasure is real, but I know that if I cross that line, it would feel like cheating. And it’s messing with me mentally. I feel so stupid and torn. The new guy is kind, respectful, and understanding. He even asked me to be his girlfriend in the middle of the moment, but I told him no because I didn’t want to make that decision based on passion.
But now I feel like a horrible person, like I’m doing something wrong to both of them. I’m confused. Do I really owe loyalty to someone who hasn’t even made things official with me? Because this new guy treats me exactly how I want to be treated and ticks every box, but my heart is still stuck on someone who hasn’t claimed me.
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