It’s been one month since my girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me, and until now, I still can’t get over this girl. I have punished myself to the extent that people who care about me are worried, and it’s even affecting my health! Like all my emotions were invested in this relationship, and I knew, yet I could not tolerate the disrespect and the body shaming, like calling me “you this short boy” in front of her younger ones. At times, I’ll just smile, even when it pa!ns me, and I observed all those started since things became messy for me at work, although she was very supportive. But the respect just isn’t there. This girl will playfully slip me at times, and I’ll be angry but won’t react. Pesin wey I senior with almost 5 years, and though she knows I have a very hot temper, I am just calm when it comes to her.
So, this fateful Friday, she told me she was going to the club with her brother around 5 pm, and I said okay. I don’t normally sleep at night till it’s 4 or 5 am. So, when I wanted to sleep that morning, I decided to call her around 4 am to find out if they had gone home. She picked up the call outside the club, video call though. I was like, why didn’t you pick up the call inside, and she said it was because of noise. But I was not just okay that she came out to pick up the call, I doubted if she was with her brother like she claimed. I said okay and hung up. So, I just thought let’s call again to ask when they were going home since it was 4 am already, and the fun should be getting over. Her phone was off. I waited till around 5:30 am and called her back on video call, she picked up, and she was home! I was like, what happened to your phone? She said she switched it off because of me!
I was shocked because I only called once, and it was 4 am. I felt the disrespect and got angry, so I just poured out all the disrespect I had been taking from her on her that morning. I said bad things to her because I was feeling disrespected too much. I can say terrible things if I am angry, that I know. We ended up blocking each other till the next evening. I felt I said too much, although all the things I used to insult her that morning, she did them! So, I reached out to tell her that I was sorry, and she labeled me an abusive boyfriend! For what she caused? I sha bought Val gift and other things, she no gree. I don commot from our area for her, I dey Apapa for now make I heal. Ahbeg. Next time, if I go love at all, not with all my heart, I go still remain small. Man with brain no suppose dey love finish because these girls know how to take advantage of someone and push you, then call you b@d names because of your reaction.
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