Everything started on a Thursday when my girlfriend asked me to buy her food. I told her I couldn’t because I didn’t have much money on me at the time. The next day, she said she woke up late and hadn’t eaten, so I asked how she was planning to sort herself out. She replied that she wouldn’t be complaining if she had money. I asked her if she truly had nothing, and she said the little she had was meant for cooking the next day and for buying data. That response didn’t sit well with me because even if that was her last cash, at least she had something. She could’ve used that for the meantime, and I would still find a way to support her later. But instead, she expected me to take care of it immediately, even with my own situation. Because of that, I didn’t get her the food, and she started giving me attitude. I texted her later that day asking if what she was doing was fair—ignoring me just because I didn’t buy food. This is the same girl I spent over ₦800k on just the previous week for her birthday. I bought her gifts and gave her cash. So I was surprised she suddenly acted like I wasn’t doing anything for her.
So I compared it to what she’s doing too. Even though we live close, we’ve had s€x less than 10 times in 3 months. Every time I bring it up or make a move, she gives excuses. I’ve talked to her about it multiple times, but she doesn’t change. After the food incident, she continued with the attitude, and we stopped talking completely for 5 days. Then on Thursday, I saw a video she posted. It showed her and a friend being taken out by some guys. From what I could tell, they spent the night out. I don’t know exactly what happened, but I was pissed. That’s not something you expect from someone who claims to be in a relationship. Out of anger, I blocked her everywhere that night. It’s not the first time we’ve had silent treatments when there’s an issue, but this time felt worse. She really went out of her way to do something hurtful. By the next day (Friday), I found out she was trying to sell a sofa I let her have (I wasn’t planning to sell it). That annoyed me even more. So I called her and told her I wanted to collect everything I had bought for her since she could go as far as selling my things.
Her mom called me after that conversation, and we talked. Because of the talk, I calmed down and told her I wasn’t collecting anything again. I unblocked her, she unblocked me too, but we still didn’t talk after that. That same Friday night, I decided to post a video of me taking another girl out, basically returning the same energy. She saw it and blocked me again. Now here’s where it gets worse: Yesterday, I reached out to the people who helped her list the chair for sale, and they told me it had already been sold. I called her, and she told me she had sold everything I bought her and used the money to buy new stuff. That’s what really made me furious. I went to her place immediately, but she refused to let me in. I was so angry that I told her I’d collect everything back, including her phone. For the record, I had never tried to collect anything I got for anyone before. I only said that out of the anger of her selling my things without even informing me. After a while, we spoke. She told me she was angry at me from a week earlier because I went to buy foodstuff without her (we usually do that together). But she didn’t say anything about it until now.
She also claimed that she only followed her friends out that night and didn’t do anything with the guys, which I find hard to believe, honestly. In the end, I found out she only sold the chair, not everything else. That calmed me down a bit. But the chair alone was worth ₦250k+, and she sold it for ₦140k without telling me. She doesn’t even have a receipt, and I’m still thinking of finding the buyer and taking it back. Now I’m confused. Despite everything I’ve done for her, this is where we are. I’m not perfect. I’ve made mistakes too, like reacting in anger—but do you think I’m the one mostly at fault here? Can this relationship still work, or should I just let it go?
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