Please, I need advice from guys especially—I mean the ones that actually take responsibility. So I met this guy on my 17th birthday. That was the first time my parents ever gave me permission to go out with my friends. He got my number, and I was actually attracted to his vocabulary—the way he speaks. Weird, I know. Fast forward to a few months later, foolish me got pregnant. I didn’t know till 2 months later. This guy ghosted me for two months, and when we started talking in March, I was already 4 months pregnant. I can swear that I was ready to ab0rt the pregnancy, but I didn’t know how or where to start. So when I told him, he was saying I was already far along and I couldn’t ab0rt anymore. I had to seek help. I almost ab0rted my baby at 7/8 months after selling my phone, but God saved me because the doctor refused. While all this was happening, my parents didn’t know I was pregnant. I mean, they saw the weight gain but didn’t want to believe—plus, my bump was so small. In fact, our church member had to call my mom to tell her to ask me questions. So when my mom knew, it was like 2 weeks to delivery,
and we told my dad on the day I delivered. And yes, we live in the same house. Fast forward to after delivery, the only money this guy has sent is B50k, and my baby is almost 2 right now. My dad said he doesn’t want to ever meet this guy, and my baby is well taken care of. He doesn’t lack anything because my parents provide. In fact, my brother had to place me on $50 allowance weekly for a year, so that’s basically how I got through. I’ve requested money from this guy, but he’s always saying, “I don’t have, I can’t lie.” Even during his birthday or Christmas, a single kobo hasn’t dropped for his child. This guy stays in the same city with me and has only seen his baby once. I even suggested for him to downsize his car and invest or start up a business, but he flared up. I don’t know his family house or contacts or his parents. I’m helpless because I can’t get the thought out that I’ll raise this child on my own for another person to claim later on. He isn’t even present physically, at least. I’m juggling school, a baby, and I’m currently struggling with schoolwork.
I don’t know if to sponsor his pictures on WhatsApp so I can get in contact with his family. He’s 30 by the way. I agree that I was f00lish and should have closed my legs, so I don’t need extra backlash. I’m a child too. I just need suggestions on how I can get in contact with his family, because his Instagram I had has been blocked. No insults please. He’ll literally ghost me for months and chat me up like nothing happened. I’m tired.
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