I’m a 20-year-old lady, pretty and smart. I get attention from guys, but I haven’t been in a relationship before. I have had some pretty serious talking stages, but none have led to a relationship. I haven’t been so interested in entering one before now, but I have decided to put in more effort, and I’m finding it really difficult to get a man who doesn’t want a sexual relationship. I’m a Christian, and I don’t believe in sex before marriage, but it’s so hard to find someone who is ready to wait. What always ends my talking stages is when I tell them my principles. They appreciate me for being truthful, then we stop talking. I recently met a Christian minister; he isn’t really a pastor yet but something close to that.
What attracted me to him was the fact that I thought we would be on the same page, but after some conversations, he told me that if he is in a relationship, he wants to be sexually active. I was quite surprised. I thought Christians are meant to be celibate, or has the rule changed? It seems there’s no guy that’s ready to date without sex. By the way, I’m a virgin, and I want to marry as one, but I’m not doing it because of my husband or any man in general. They’re not even worth it. I’m doing it because of my relationship with God and for myself. Being a virgin doesn’t guarantee you a good marriage. I’m not better than others who aren’t virgins; it’s their personal decision and their body. I have chosen what I want with mine.
My question is, are there still men who are willing to wait till marriage in this generation? Is it possible to love someone and be in a relationship without being sexually active? Please, I need young couples who are newly married and also Christians who are dating, to tell me in the comments if it’s possible.
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