I met my boyfriend in October 2022. We started dating in January 2023. Since we started dating, he has never done anything for me as little as recharging my phone or buying data for me. (He’s not the richest, but he’s not broke either.) He has never paid for my hair or nails. Before I went on with the relationship, I never questioned him about it. I was in school when we started dating, and he never supported me financially in school. I kept dating him and never made it an issue. Fast forward to June 2023, he asked me to visit him from school.
The cost of transportation from my school to his place was 4,000 Naira. My boyfriend sent me 4,000 to visit him and said I should board a tricycle to his house from the park, and he’d pay on my arrival. I went and spent the weekend. When I was leaving, he gave me N6,000 cash. The cost of transport back to my school was 5,000. I took the money and left without complaining. He later visited his brother, who lives in the same vicinity as my school, and invited me over. I went to visit him and spent the night. When I was leaving, he dropped N2,000 Naira on the table and told me to pick “what will take me to school” and drop the rest for him.
God so kind, I’m a graduate now! I have a small business I use to sustain myself. Three weeks ago, I lost 700,000 Naira to a fake supplier. I was down. I cried and cried. I became distant from everyone. My boyfriend asked why I was moody, but I didn’t tell him what was wrong because he’s never assisted with any of my problems. Out of frustration, I told him to leave me alone because I knew he wouldn’t help. I went ahead to paint past scenarios, like the ones mentioned above and many others, where I needed help, and he didn’t help in any way. I’m an orphan with a younger sibling I cater for.
Sometimes it gets overwhelming, and I need assistance. It’s always been my friends helping and never my man. Now, my man is angry with me for bringing up past scenarios in the present. Please, my Rantandtalkz family, be ruthlessly honest with me. Am I wrong for blurting out? Everything I wrote here, between man and God, is the honest truth. Are the above-mentioned scenarios enough reason for me to end the relationship? Or am I feeling entitled? Because those were his words. Please be honest with me. I don’t have relatives I can take this issue to.
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