Everything started on a Thursday when my girlfriend asked me to buy her food. I told her I couldn’t because I didn’t have much money. The next day, she said she woke up late and hadn’t eaten, so I asked how she planned to sort herself out. She replied that she wouldn’t complain if she had money. I asked if she truly had nothing, and she said the little she had was meant for cooking the next day and buying data. That didn’t sit well with me because even if that was her last cash, at least she had something she could’ve used for the meantime. I would have still found a way to support her later. Instead, she expected me to take care of it immediately, even with my own situation. Because of that, I didn’t get her the food, and she started giving me attitude. I had spent over ₦800k on her the previous week for her birthday, bought her gifts, and gave her cash, so I was surprised she acted like I wasn’t doing anything. I compared it to her actions too. Even though we live close, we’ve had sex less than 10 times in three months. Every time I bring it up or make a move, she gives excuses. I’ve talked to her multiple times, but she doesn’t change. After the food incident, she continued with the attitude, and we stopped talking completely for five days. On Thursday, I saw a video she posted showing her and a friend being taken out by some guys. I don’t know exactly what happened, but I was pissed. That’s not expected from someone in a relationship. Out of anger, I blocked her everywhere. By the next day, I found out she was trying to sell a sofa I let her have. I wasn’t planning to sell it. That annoyed me more. I called her and told her I wanted to collect everything I bought her since she sold my things without informing me. Her mum called me, and we talked. I calmed down and said I wasn’t collecting anything. I unblocked her, she unblocked me, but we didn’t talk after that. That Friday night, I posted a video of me taking another girl out, returning the same energy. She saw it and blocked me again. Yesterday, I reached out to people who helped her list the chair for sale, and they said it had already been sold. I called her, and she said she sold everything I bought and used the money to buy new stuff. That made me furious. I went to her place, but she refused me entry. I told her I’d collect everything back, including her phone. For the record, I had never tried to collect anything before; I only said that out of anger. Later, she said she was angry because I bought foodstuff without her, but didn’t mention anything until now. She claimed she only followed friends out that night and didn’t do anything with the guys, which I find hard to believe. In the end, I found out she only sold the chair, not everything. The chair alone was worth ₦250k+, and she sold it for ₦140k without telling me. She doesn’t have a receipt. I’m still thinking of finding the buyer and taking it back. Now I’m confused. Despite everything I’ve done for her, this is where we are. I’m not perfect; I’ve made mistakes like reacting in anger. Do you think I’m mostly at fault? Can this relationship still work, or should I just let it go?
