I never knew I’d be writing to the platform, but here I am. Last week, during a fight with my boyfriend, he said to me, “What is even your usefulness?” Although the next day he apologized for making such a statement, honestly speaking, I actually do not have much to offer. I’m a startup fashion designer, and it isn’t easy as I’m also funding my schooling alongside. Basically, he’s doing the most in the relationship. Even though he apologized, I cannot take my mind off that statement. I lost it at a point and was so sad and disturbed. Mind you, I just opened a store last month (he contributed majorly), but then reality started setting in. I spent all I had, I’m really broke at the moment, and that statement triggered something in my soul. I was depressed for days. During this time, I wasn’t stable online—I’d just text him in the morning and go offline until evening, and we could only communicate on WhatsApp because he relocated earlier this year. Even though I was depressed, I didn’t shut the door of communication; at least I’d talk to him every day. My friend noticed I wasn’t really okay, especially with the break in communication, so he talked me out of the depression. On the third day, I texted/called my guy, but he wouldn’t pick up, only to send me a message that read, “Now that you’re back from the break you had, you choose to call me, so me that should always be here, make I dey jump on you say you don’t text me abi? I’m busy!” I read that message with so much pain. I mean, this is not the kind of energy I needed right now, so I just replied “OK.” I wanted to text him later in the evening but felt no; I wanted to see what he’d do. It’s been five days now, and he hasn’t texted or called (he’s actively active but just wasn’t talking to me). Even if he’s angry, over the years, he could’ve at least received me warmly and then made his displeasure known, not shut me out that way. My normal self would have double-texted him or said sorry, but I just feel like making no move and seeing how he handles this. Honestly, my heart is hurting, my chest is beating really fast, I’m not getting good sleep, and my heart aches for real. Should I just message him and tell him sorry, or should I watch how this ends? Am I even wrong for ignoring him? Please advise me. My heart is broken.
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