You know how we normally joke that we will end up in arranged marriages because of the state of relationships nowadays? Well, my joke became a reality when I started dating this new guy this year after he was introduced to me by a family member. The first day we met, we had some conversations about ourselves, where he told me his genotype was AS and that I’m AA. Later on, he told me he lied about his genotype and that he is actually SS. I was offended because he started our relationship with lies, and a huge one at that. He apologized, saying it was because he was scared I would not date him and that other girls he had dated left when they found out. I was rightly angry, but at the same time, I felt sorry for him. So I forgave him because he was really nice and thoughtful (although I was scared because he was dating me with the intention of marriage, and I had heard and read that sickle cell patients don’t live long enough).
But he assured me that he doesn’t really have episodes anymore and that I shouldn’t be scared. I tried to move past the whole SS situation, but I started noticing that this man had a lot of flaws. He was very dependent on people. He can’t stay alone, not even for a day. He even begged someone to come and live with him, and anytime the friend goes to his own place, he starts acting weird and complaining about how bored he is. I found it very odd because he is a grown-a$$ man who does well for himself, so why is he so dependent on others being around him? Then I went to spend a few days at his place, and we had s€x. It was terrible, mostly because he had this overly huge stomach for his small body type, which was a hindrance. (The stomach looks like an effect of the SS.) Also, he isn’t really big down there. We normally have fights about what he posts on his WhatsApp status.
Apart from posting too much when he isn’t selling or buying anything—just memes and videos that are mostly very childish and cringy—our recent fight was when he reposted a friend’s picture with the caption “handsome and single.” He claims it was an innocent post and that I take things too seriously. I think he craves attention too much for a guy his age. I like my man mysterious, and this guy follows 10,000 people on TikTok but has only 1,000 followers. He posts up to four times daily and still gets just six to eight likes—very embarrassing. His only green flag is that he is very caring, not nonchalant, and has done well for himself financially. He isn’t telling me “let’s see how it goes” like the “my spec” guys that I’ve dated. Help!!
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