I was single for three years until I met my new man last April. He has a connection to my family, and I decided to give it a try since he knows my family and where I’m from. I was hoping he’d treat me with respect, knowing where I’m from. We started vibing and in 1-2 weeks he started saying he loves me and all of that. He doesn’t stay in the country. He visits Nigeria and then goes back. So he started inviting me over to his house and he asked me to be his girlfriend, but I refused and told him that I wanted to take things slow and get to know him first and that I didn’t feel the same way he felt. We talked a lot at night and in the morning before he went to work; he’d always call me while driving. We finally decided to meet after a month of talking. He sent me some money and I went to see him because he stays close to the state where I reside. He welcomed me well and he asked me to be his girlfriend and I accepted.
We had s£x later that night for the first time. At this point, I’ve started catching feelings for him. I’m 23 and he’s 30 by the way. I had so much respect for him. But I noticed he is so bossy and always likes things being done the traditional way. I love traditional men, but he is so controlling and bossy and he gets insecure. He would ask me to do or get him the littlest of things. I felt like a slave at some point. The plan was to stay for four days but he convinced me to stay for eight days. During this period, he wasn’t always around till evening because he usually went to his business. Ever since I left his place, things have been different. He doesn’t call often and he doesn’t text at all. He calls only at night. Recently, he told me he went for prayers, and deep down I knew he was lying. He sent me some money (he’s generous, sha). This guy told me he was going for prayers for five days in the monastery and during this period,
I shouldn’t call him or text him because he won’t be able to take calls. He said he’d be doing the calling. I didn’t question him. He barely called during those five days, and ever since then, everything has changed. I find myself hating him and resenting him. Men cheat but with this attitude, I just felt he slapped my face with the fact that he cheated and he made me feel so dumb and stupid. I’m really hurt and I blame myself for ignoring the red flags. I want to revenge but I need ideas. I don’t want to break up with him easily. I really wanted to give this new relationship my all, but I’m being taken for a f00l. Men!!
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