Today, I want to open up about my love life. I’ve dated four girls so far, and three of them cheated on me, which left me with some deep trust issues. The first girl I was with cheated on me with a guy she met on Facebook. They ended up getting married, but she still came back to me for financial help. Because I’m a calm and kind person, I helped her out, even though it was hard. This experience has made it tough to find a genuine relationship in today’s world. When I’m in a relationship, I’m loyal and committed—I don’t care about looks or anything superficial. I’m all in. What’s ironic is that I still support all four of them to this day, without asking for anything in return, not even sex. It’s funny how they want to come back now that they’ve realized the difference between me and the other guys out there.
Honestly, it’s satisfying to see them get hurt by the “hard guys” and l!ars they chose over me. Here’s a tip for my brothers: if you want to see your girlfriend’s true colours, just pretend to be broke for a month. If she doesn’t change her phone password during that time, then you know she’s genuine. But if she does, well, you can call me a fool if I’m wrong. Some girls just don’t know what they really want. They start acting out when they’re with a guy who’s real and honest. It makes me wonder if it’s a curse or if they’re just confused. I’m 30 years old and single, and I’m tired of being taken for granted. That rich guy who’s constantly complimenting your beauty and giving you all his attention, he just wants to hit and run, trust me.
I had a female friend who fell for that and ended up losing a serious relationship because of it. To this day, she hasn’t found a true relationship and continues to regret her actions. I even tried talking to the guy, asking if he could forgive a woman who made a mistake like she did. He flat-out said no, and that was the end of our conversation. Unfortunately, my friend still hasn’t been able to find a serious relationship. Social media has ruined a lot of relationships. Many girls fall for guys who flaunt their lifestyle on Instagram, but most of these guys just want to hit and run. Believe me, no guy is truly single—it’s just because of sex that they’re giving you attention.
Yet, girls often take calm and kind guys who aren’t all about social media for granted just because we’re too real and honest. The second girl I dated already had a boyfriend but accepted my advances because I was good to her. I eventually caught her lying to her boyfriend while she was at my place, saying she was at her mother’s house. That made me question what girls really want. The third girl cheated on me with a married man who gave her just N5k and promised to rent her a two-bedroom apartment. It’s disheartening that some girls prefer lies over the truth. The last girl I dated had a lot of male friends and sneaky links, constantly flirting with guys online. It made me tired of being the calm and loyal person I am.
I’m serious about relationships and love to spend on my woman, making sure she looks clean and classy. I want my partner to reflect the effort and love I put in. But now, I’m at a crossroads, questioning whether I should keep being calm and kind or just wait for the right girl who will appreciate me. I’m someone who supports my partner fully, both financially and emotionally. My love language is loyalty and respect, not gifts. I genuinely enjoy sex, and I can go six rounds in a day if my partner is up for it. I just want to be loved and appreciated. Tears fill my eyes as I type this because I know many people in our generation have been hurt in relationships, and it feels like no one is ready to be loyal anymore.
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