I’m a young girl of 24 years old, will be 25 by next month. So I met this guy 3 months ago, and we started getting to know each other. The first month was just for our talking stage and knowing more about ourselves, but now we have been officially dating for about two months. The relationship has been going well so far. He’s a great guy; he’s responsible and he respects and adores me so much. He is the kind of guy that’s always willing to take corrections of anything I complain to him about, and he’d start doing better. He’s always the first to apologize. I have lots of good stuff to say about him, but let me not lengthen the rant. The reason behind this rant is that since we started talking, he has never gifted me or supported my business. I have a little business that I do to help myself, even though it’s not yet booming like I want it to.
This guy hasn’t spent a dime on me, and the truth of the matter is that I have never asked him for anything since I’ve known him. I’m not saying it’s mandatory he must begin to spend on me now, but I’m kind of curious. I just hope he is not a stingy guy. I don’t want to be with a man that can’t support me. I go to his place and spend some days, and I always do the things I can do for him as a girlfriend, and I don’t expect anything in return because I genuinely love him. Please, this is not me feeling entitled but this is me looking out for myself. Right now, I’m having some financial challenges, and I’m thinking of asking him for assistance. Please, do you guys think it would be a good idea? God knows from the deepest part of my heart that I’m not after his money, but in this situation, I can’t help it.
My second question is, do you guys think it’s a red flag that the guy himself has never showed me any kind of monetary gesture or even gifted me since the 2 months we’ve been dating? What could be his excuse? Does he know what he’s doing and yet acting oblivious, or he doesn’t? Do you guys think his excuse could be that 2-3 months is still early to start supporting me? I’m sure this guy loves me because of the way he treats me, but I just want to be sure of this generosity aspect. Please be kind with your words; no one is perfect.🙏
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