I need somewhere to share my frustration; please be kind with your words and help me. I’ve been married for approximately two years now. My husband is an amazing person; he’s very kind, responsible, and hardworking. We just welcomed our beautiful baby. But life has been crazy lately. He made some terrible mistakes. I woke up one morning, and my husband told me he was in a crazy financial situation at his office; he mismanaged some funds, approximately N30 million. My people, I almost went mad because we don’t live like we’ve ever seen 30 million before; even our wedding was under N5 million. The situation was complicated; he explained he gave it to a politician who needed it for an election and to execute some contracts while awaiting payments.
Luckily, the politician owned up. The said politician called and pleaded with me to understand and forgive them for jeopardizing our marriage and his career (he promised him a business contract; we haven’t seen the contract yet). I was mad because he didn’t inform me before doing it; I wouldn’t have accepted. That single act destroyed our reputation and integrity at his company. I woke up lately to another terrible situation, N11 million. My people, money we still didn’t spend. There’s a high potential we will pay this one because they have become high-risk loans. The institution says he would pay them since he granted them, and the collaterals don’t amount to anything considering his past misconduct. We currently have a loan of 4 million, which we invested in a business; the business isn’t doing too well.
This makes N15 million we have to pay. I’m really hurt about this N11 million; I feel like my husband should apologize to me daily for putting me through this kind of psychological and financial stress. We both work, but it’s going to take years to pay that kind of money—money that we should be saving to either build a house or for our children’s education. I sleep and don’t sleep; I would suddenly wake up in tears. Life’s getting expensive daily; the baby is here. How do we cope? Our combined savings are barely under N5 million. I wish this was a dream. I need advice to come out of this. Our marriage is sinking; I just want to sleep and sleep or work with some concentration. Thank God I’m on leave now; I could easily make a mistake with a patient with this kind of heavy thinking.
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