African Culture Of Marriage

African culture, esp. Nigerian culture of marriage is so bad and it annoys the hell out of me. Life isn’t supposed to be this hard fr. Why is it not allowed for a woman to speak about her pains? Why is a woman not allowed to express her emotions? We are all humans and we are created to make mistakes, have flaws, and emotions. Why is a woman’s emotion not valid in Nigeria? The moment a woman speaks out about her feelings or her pain, everyone sees it as a big issue. Men and women are both humans and it gets to some point where you can’t suppress your emotions. It gets to a point where you need to speak out so as not to fall into depression, suffer from anxiety or any other mental illness. Why should a woman always be the one in pain, suffering, and sadness? Are women created to suffer mentally and emotionally?

In a relationship or marriage, the moment a woman says no to something because she knows clearly that that particular something isn’t comfortable for her or it’s going to cause her some things she can’t manage with, if she says no, it becomes a problem. Do women have to do stuff even if it’s going to make her hurt, sad or affect her in whatever way, just because her bf or husband said so? Please don’t misquote me. It’s a MUST for a woman to listen to her husband and be submissive, but not at the expense of her losing her mind, doing something that’s going to affect her physically, emotionally, and mentally or doing something that she’s not comfortable with. Imagine my man’s mom saying infidelity shouldn’t be a big issue for me, shouldn’t be something I should get angry over, shouldn’t be something I should even talk about at all.

She supports her son’s cheating behavior. Am I missing anything? Is that right? Going around and getting so close with your ex shouldn’t be something I should talk about??? Why should I overlook something I can’t tolerate?! Why should I have to accept whatever he does? Because I’m a woman? That’s what I keep hearing from his people. A woman this, a woman that. I have to live in pain because I am a woman? I have to live the rest of my life in sadness because I am a woman? Why should it be like that? Please, I need advice from both genders. Please enlighten me, sirs and mas. I’m not a minor.

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