I’m a young lady in her early twenties (23) who just got engaged last month; my wedding preparation is already going on. I and my fiancé have only dated for 6 months. My problem is my fiancé hardly asked me for sex since we started dating; he’s not romantic at all. He has only asked me for sex just once, which was the first day we had sex; after that day he seemed uninterested anymore. He has never tried to have sex with me again. I am the one who always asks, and when he manages to do it, he doesn’t even last up to 10 minutes. Not like I have an infection, I am very clean down there. We have not had sex up to 7 times since we started dating. Only for me to go through his phone one day and I found out that he has a side chick; he’s cheating on me. The girl in question knows about me, and he always alerts her whenever I am around so she won’t come over. I confronted him and we fought, the fight was so big that our parents were involved, so he promised not to have anything to do with her again.
He blocked and deleted her number. Guys, could you imagine that I went through his phone again just yesterday and I found out that he’s still sleeping with this girl? He fucks her raw and lasts up to 40 minutes or even more. He told me he was not a good kisser, that he doesn’t like kissing, but he loves kissing her. When I caught him that first time before he blocked her, he told me he was not attracted to her, that he only had sex with her but he lied, because how can he be kissing someone he claimed not to be attracted to? Is that even possible? He even told her he loves how soft her lips and body are, and how he loves to caress and cuddle her. Meanwhile, he has never kissed me willingly; we sleep like strangers. My fiancé is practically obsessed with his side chick; he tells her how her moaning turns him on and makes him want to go on and on inside of her. Though I don’t moan, I don’t see that as a problem.
He also told her how sweet she is whenever he’s fucking her, and how he could fuck her every day if he has the opportunity. He fucks her passionately while moaning and whispering sweet things into her ears, but my so-called fiancé finds it difficult to touch me. He doesn’t moan or say anything to me during sex; he always acts like he’s being forced or doing me a favor. He has zero interest in sex and intimacy when it comes to me. I am so confused. This man loves me; he takes care of me; he does everything for me; I don’t lack anything. But our sexual life is killing me. The funniest part is that this girl doesn’t even ride him or give him a BJ because I saw it on their chat where she was telling him that he should get used to her not riding or giving him a BJ because she doesn’t like doing it, and my fiancé told her he doesn’t care as long as he’s enjoying her pussy.
Meanwhile, I always give him a BJ and ride him like my life depends on it, yet he has never told me anything sweet or used those sweet words on me. I am so frustrated and pained. Does it mean that my fiancé is not attracted to me sexually, or what? Or maybe there’s something I am doing wrong. I thought all pussies taste the same, so why is he treating me this way? To think I even do more in bed than his side chick yet he prefers having sex with her. Is it possible for a man to love a woman yet he’s not attracted to her sexually? I feel like calling off this engagement and breaking up with him, because what if it gets worse after marriage? I would be miserable. But I want your opinion first if I am overreacting.
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