I met this guy on TikTok in someone’s comment section. He wanted to get something the person posted, but I had to reply to him because I sell too, and we started talking from there. Though he was not in Nigeria, he promised to patronize me once he was back, which he did. After some weeks, I posted my videos, and he saw them and commented. Since then, we have been vibing. He told me he would like us to see it, but I told him we would see it before he went back. Some weeks went by, and he wouldn’t stop asking to see me, so I went to see him for the first time at his place, and we vibed together, watched movies, and played games. I left that day, and since then, we kept talking, but he ghosts a lot, though he does tell me he’s busy with work, which I noticed when I went the first time.
I was at his place the following week, and we had sex, even though I insisted, but he had his way. I told him this should not have happened because I’m not yet your girlfriend and you didn’t ask me out. You only told me you liked me and would love us to hang out more. His reply was he wanted me to be his girlfriend. I couldn’t say anything to him again because I was sad we had sex already, and I left for the day. Since then, he has not asked me to be his girlfriend, and we don’t chat regularly because he’s said he’s always busy. He goes two to three days sometimes before he replies to messages, and you can’t call him because he’s always on DND.
But he drops messages for me at times. Now, my mind is always with him, though I told him I didn’t feel anything for him the day we had sex, and he told me he would give me time to think about it. So now I’m confused if he’s waiting for my feedback or he just doesn’t want to have things to do with me again, because no matter how busy you are, you don’t ignore someone you said you want. Please, now I’m confused if I should initiate the conversation and tell him I’m ready to be his girlfriend or if I should just ghost him back, even though I can’t get my mind off him.