I have been dating my boyfriend for over 2 years now. The first 7 months were online and distant, but now we stay together. He’s a nice guy, gentle, playful, and takes care of me. However, there’s this habit he just started which hurts me. During those 7 months, we used to talk nonstop; I’d tell him every single detail about my day, and he would too. I always enjoyed doing that a lot because I also like talking and sharing stories. When the relationship became physical, things didn’t change; it was even better. He’s my best friend and the only person I feel comfortable telling anything to. He also tells me everything; at least, I think he does. Recently, for about 2 months, anytime I tell him something, he just replies with “okay” or doesn’t even respond at all.
One time I spent about 3 minutes talking about something to him, only for him not to respond. I felt very stupid. He did it many other times. I talked to him about it, but he said he didn’t hear, especially since he was resting on my lap. He did it many more times after that, and I talked to him about it again. This time he said I’m always talking, so most times he’s tired of hearing what I want to say. I felt bad after that but decided to limit the way I talked because I felt he was right; I talk a lot. This still didn’t make him change. Nowadays, I don’t even talk about my day because I don’t see the point; he will just say “Okay” or not even say anything. Even the little I tell him about now, he sometimes still doesn’t reply. He might start up a conversation, but when I carry on, he just says “Okay.”
One time I wanted to start doing the same thing to him, but after a short while, I stopped; I just couldn’t. I felt bad because he talked for a while, and I just replied with “okay” like the way he does, but he looked offended and sad. I just couldn’t continue. I told him that’s how I always felt when he treated me like that; he apologized and begged me, saying he didn’t know it was that bad. After a day, he returned to his behavior. Apart from this, he’s a good person; he treats me well, still playful and gentle. Once in a while, we have a good conversation, even though nowadays it’s rare unlike before. I’ve decided to talk to him about this one more time and tell him if he doesn’t change, I’ll leave. Hopefully, he changes.
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