My baby’s daddy will be 28 years old this year. He has everything I could ever wish for in a man. I can’t really tell if he loves me honestly because he cheated on his girlfriend, then with many girls including me. I knew nothing about the girl at first, but I was later informed. I was not happy with it, but we were never married, so who am I to be angry over that? I overlooked it but zeroed my mind asap. Due to lots of prophecies about my sister and I getting pregnant and not aborting it, we always used protection every time we met. The last time we met, I decided to put a stop to the situationship since I couldn’t tell whether he loved me or not. Little did I know that I was already pregnant. I told him, but due to fear, he did not take it lightly with me. It caused so much distance between us. I kept on wondering why he had been cheating on his “more than 3 years” girlfriend because trust me, this girl has a beautiful body with an innocent look. A close friend of my baby daddy’s girlfriend who happens to be my coursemate and the same person who told me about my baby daddy’s longtime girlfriend, kept on telling me things about him like how he ridiculed me before his longtime girlfriend and before his friends.
Those words really got to me. They brought out the beast in me, which resulted in me using heavy negative words on him and even the people around me. Now that I am a changed person, I have realized that my baby daddy had traumas that resulted in him not believing in love. No matter how caring you are to him, he will never believe that you love him. Lol, is there a way to heal him? Are there any caring words to say to him from afar to heal him from these pains? I stay in Ife, and he stays in Lagos. I don’t know if there is a better way to help without traveling down to Lagos, because I have really been scared of having sex before marriage after giving birth, and he is a touchy person even though he might not be moved again, though, because I said so many hurtful things to him out of pains of being a baby mama for life. I am a fearful person; I can’t strongly sleep alone at night in an apartment. Being a baby mama means that I would have to prepare my mind to live alone. That was why I said those hurtful words. But now that it is clear that he never believed in love, I don’t know if I could help him believe in love once again, whether he ends up loving me or not because everyone deserves to be loved, including him.
I know how encouraging it is to experience genuine love from loved ones. It makes life peaceful and healthy for one. It helps one to reach his or her goal on time. It helps encourage and motivates that person, for the sake of progress and positivity. If one lives without love, it creates negativity. So please help me with a few pieces of advice on how to make him feel important and loved once again because he is really important and caring to me and my baby. I know low key, he wants to be loved as well not for his money nor his beauty but probably genuinely, but he is just being stubborn that he doesn’t want love so as not to fall abruptly into the hands of deceitful girls. He doesn’t even give room for communication, which was meant to be the key. I just want my baby’s father to be genuinely happy again. Please help me with steps to take to achieve that. Thank you for your time.
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