I started dating this guy in 2022, and everything was going well until late that year when I started dating myself. He wouldn’t text or call, and it kept on going like that for a while. I’d complain, he’d change for a few days and go back to being the nonchalant person again. When I say I wanted to break up, he’d apologize, and I’d take him back. So I decided that after I returned the money he lent me to him, I’d just go my own way without looking back at all. It took a while for me to get the money, so I had to hang in there (in the relationship) because I didn’t want any money wahala. Along the line, there was this guy I had been friends with for close to 2 years, he asked me out, and I decided to give it a try. I didn’t tell him about the money or anything, because I like doing stuff for myself, except if you decide to do it for me.
But men don’t even know the worth of girls with my type of mentality, na we dey suffer pass. He was everything to me until when school resumed, and he was going back to school. He was the one who suggested that we take a break (we’d still be texting and all, though). The break was so that if we were not able to reach out to each other, we wouldn’t be mad at each other. I sha agreed, and everything was still cool. Later sha, I stopped seeing his status, but I didn’t even bother to ask because I thought he just didn’t have time to post. My phone got spoilt, so my sister gave me hers to use for a while. She had a TikTok account which I didn’t have on my phone, so I created an account for myself just to be watching videos, nothing more. That was how one night I stumbled upon a couple’s TikTok account of my new guy and a girl.
Omo, I didn’t even know how to react. The annoying part of it is that he still texted me a few days ago with all the stup•d reassurances and all, which I fell for and appreciated. I told my friend, and she said she had known for a while, she thought I knew about it. I texted him, and he gave me the cock and bull story of she’s rich, she’s the one feeding him, she’s lonely, and all. I mean, you were the one who suggested the break, fine, but I still deserve to know if you want to move on. He sha apologized, and I forgave him, but we ended the relationship. He then came back during the festive period, we attended a concert together in December 2023. He said I’m the one he loves, blah blah blah. I still fell for the non$€nse, and we even had s#x. This guy went back to school and started posting the babe again.
I even made one hairstyle recently (January), and he commented, “This hair fit you die.” The next week, I saw the hair on his babe’s head on his post. Omo, I just blocked him straight. Back to the first guy’s issue, he later told me he was acting like that because of what a friend I once had sex with told him about me. He added that he didn’t even have the intention of dating me; it was the guy who told him to come. The werey that told him is my childhood friend o. Omo. Guys, my story is a bit complicated, I know, but I just hope y’all understand my point. I just want a healthy relationship. I want to be loved, for real. I’ll be in the comments, even though I don’t know what I’ll be looking for there. I’m single now.
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