I met my ex-boyfriend in December last year, and before we met, I’d been single for a year. So when he approached me, he said he wasn’t into relationship stuff, and I agreed because, to be honest, I thought being single was more peaceful (and it really is). We started talking, and all of a sudden, he wanted more (a relationship) with me. I’ve read stories here about love bombing, so I was aware of what he was doing, but I still gave him an audience. The next day, he pestered me to come see him, but I couldn’t go because I slept off. So he invited me for a show the day after, and I went with him. Before then, he posted a screenshot of his chat, and on his wallpaper was a girl. When I met with him, I confronted him about the girl. He lied to me, saying she was his sister. Having been played before, I knew he was just lying. So I told him to video call his sister, and then he proceeded to text someone else and told her “his girlfriend” wanted to speak with her.
I tapped on the media while he was showing me their conversation and saw it was a different person, and immediately I told him I was leaving. He kept begging me countless times, but I paid him no heed, which resulted in him having a fight with one of his friends who was making fun of him because he was begging a lady. Because of the whole fight scenario, I couldn’t go back that day, and his friends begged me to stay with him, so I did. Mind you, I was on my period that day, so we didn’t get to do anything, and I need not forget he even tried to force himself on me even when I told him I was on my period. That same night, he kept trying to explain to me that he and the girl on his wallpaper were having issues, that he’s always the one begging for attention, and told me he was going to break up with her, and I believed him (stupid, right)? We started going out after that day, and he gave me access to his both phones, but because the whole relationship started off with a lie, I couldn’t trust him. I’d go through his phone every minute; if he gets a call, I’m always the first to look at his screen.
Any small issue, I’m nagging and frowning my face, and I think it started wearing him out, but I couldn’t stop. When I try not to nag or complain about a certain thing he did that I wasn’t able to, I’d end up frowning myself. It got to the point he started texting his ex back, telling her how much he missed her and wanted her back. I saw it, always commenting on her videos, and I confronted him about it. Instead of apologizing, he got angry and said, “Why would I be going through his phone, that I don’t respect his privacy, and yada yada.” I didn’t say anything; I just went to bed. Throughout that night, we didn’t speak to each other. Not wanting to take much of your time, it’s February, and he told me he doesn’t want the relationship, that he wants to be alone. Then I asked him if he wanted to go back to his ex; he said he didn’t have anything to say to me and blocked me.
Rantandtakz family, I already paid for a Valentine’s package for this boy and a pair of sneakers. It’s been 5 days now, and every time I close my eyes to sleep, I see him. He torments my sleep and I’m unable to sleep for a whole 2 hours. If I close my eyes for 1 hour, I’m waking up with a worried heart and sweat all over my body. I’ve tried reading and watching movies thinking it’d distract me, but I’ve not been able to. I miss him so much, but I know he’s gone from my life already, and there’s no way he’s coming back. I know part of this was my fault, but I’m still unable to let him go. I’ve been stalking him on every social media platform. Please, you people, should give me advice; don’t sugarcoat your words; insult me all you want; I just need to get a hold of myself, please.