I have a man, we have been dating since university days, which is a six-year relationship. I love him so much that I have visited his parents and siblings. Even when we were in school, whenever he hurt me, my friends would tell me to leave him, but I would go back to be with him. There was even a day in school when I cooked for him, and he rejected the food before I got to his place. I had to kneel and beg him over and over for him to eat. I do all the chores for him and everything because I love him. Now we are planning to take our relationship to the next level, but this guy is telling me he wants a child but doesn’t want marriage. I was like, even if it’s a small wedding, I’m not requesting an elaborate one, which my family doesn’t even like, but for him to respect my family, because I’m the only girl, at least let’s do a little traditional marriage, then registry. He said it can’t work, that I don’t want him to be happy. That’s why I am scared that after I have a child with him, he will leave me. That means I do not trust him. Then I said it can’t work if he wants it that way.
The next thing he said was we are done: no child, no relationship. I feel if a man loves and cherishes you enough, he wouldn’t say this. Please, I need your advice. We are both educated, and I don’t know how he can be thinking this way. This is a problem dating someone of the same age. He said his dad got married to his mom after they had his elder brother, which I told him might not work for us. Besides, we are in a new century. Please, I need your advice. I’ll be in the comment section.
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