So I met this guy in 2022. We started dating (a serious relationship). We have been having our ups and downs in the relationship. Mind you, he’s a good person, he’s loving and he also takes good care of me. But the thing is our relationship is about to end. In 2024 we both spoke about taking the relationship to the next level, which I was truly excited about. He told me he was going to talk to his family and then get back to me. He travelled to the East in December 2024 so he could talk to his people about us. While he was there I would always call to ask what the update was, but the response I got from him wasn’t okay to me at all, so I decided not to ask anymore and just wait for him to come back to Lagos. When he came back in January 2025 I asked him what the update was and he said his family were not giving any positive reply. When I asked why, he said because of my family setting (my mum and dad are not in good terms but are not divorced, they just don’t talk to each other and they also don’t stay in the same house). Apparently he knows about this and then he went to tell them.
So the thing is I don’t know what he told them exactly that is making them say no. I kept on asking what he told them but he refused to tell me. He then told me that I should give him some time to talk to them again. I told him okay, but deep down I wasn’t really happy because of the whole thing. His parents haven’t seen me in person or even talked to me before. The only thing they have seen is my picture and they are already judging me because of my parents. Since then till now I have been asking what the next step is because I wasn’t feeling comfortable anymore. He kept on saying I should please give him 1 month (that he doesn’t want to lose me) and that if his parents still don’t want me for him then we have to go our separate ways. The thing is I’m really trying so much to keep my hopes high about him trying to still talk to his parents, but another part of me is so exhausted and about to give up. Please what advice would you give to me? Please, I’d be in the comment section.
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